Getting Your Partner on the Same Wellness Path As You

Maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle can be challenging. The journey becomes even more complex when your partner or spouse doesn't share the same wellness ideals as you. This blog will explore strategies to bridging that gap, how to find common ground, and how to support each other's goals in a productive and lasting way.

Understanding the Fitness Gap

Just like other aspects of life, partners may have different fitness ideals. One might be a dedicated runner while the other loves succulent meals and leisurely walks. Alternatively, you might be trying to lose weight while your partner is indifferent to health and fitness. These differences can strain the relationship, as well as your personal health journey.

It's important to understand why your partner may not be as committed as you are. They might lack knowledge of the benefits of fitness, have a past negative experience with physical activity, or simply prioritize other aspects of life above working out.

Bridging the Gap: Finding Common Ground

Lead by example! If your lifestyle brings you happiness, energy and health, it may be a more motivating factor than lecturing your partner or pressuring them to join you. Let them notice the impact fitness has on you and this may provide the positive influence they need and be inspired to join in.

Remember, fitness is not always about hitting the gym. Find a physical activity you both enjoy and incorporate that into your routine. Some good examples are: hiking, dancing or yoga. Shared activities makes fitness fun and builds camaraderie and makes fitness more enjoyable.

Setting shared goals are also a great strategy. Maybe it's participating in a charity 5k run/walk, losing weight for a wedding or even just keeping up with the kids or grandkids. When you both work towards the same goal, there's more likely to be a successful outcome.

Always provide encouragement and support. All progress is good progress. Celebrate all wins; big or small. Also, be there to pick them up those times when their motivation may wane a bit.

Respecting Differences and Autonomy

While it's beneficial to encourage your partner to adopt a healthier lifestyle, it's equally important to respect their autonomy. Remember that each person's fitness journey is personal and self-driven.

Your partner has to want to make changes for themselves, not just because you want them to. Also, understand that success looks different for everyone. Your idea of fitness might involve a stringent workout and diet plan, while your partner might be more interested in simply incorporating more physical activity into their day or eating more balanced meals. It's important to respect these differences and find a way to support each other's goals.

The key lies in balancing encouragement with acceptance. Stay patient, empathetic, and understanding. Celebrate the small victories, and remember that the ultimate goal is for you both to live healthy, happy lives –however that may look for each of you.

Enjoy the Journey!

Coach B. Terry